Monday, April 6, 2015

Go Fund Yourself

Recently I read an article about a guy who started a gofundme campaign so that he could buy a plane ticket to Florida, where his girlfriend had gone on spring break. He was worried that she would cheat on him during the trip. He even got upset that a swimsuit picture she'd posted online got 200 "likes." (Jealous and insecure, your table is ready.) His campaign was successful; he took the trip to Florida, and his girlfriend didn't think he was possessive AT ALL.

I also read that almost a million dollars has been donated to a gofundme campaign for the owners of Memories Pizza in Indiana, who suffered a huge backlash after one of the proprietors said that he "chose" to be heterosexual and that he believed others "chose" to be homosexual. The owners also said that while they would still serve pizza to gay people, they would not cater a gay wedding.

Who would serve pizza at a wedding? (The only people who would like that are probably the people who don't think it's necessary to wear a shirt when they get married, like the ones I saw on a reality show recently.) I think the owners said that to make it clear that they supported that "religious freedom" act. I thought about the kind, funny, and good people I've met in Chicago, who are gay. None would choose to be homosexual, because why choose an identity that motivates other people to discriminate against you, beat you, or renounce you? While people have a right to practice their own religions, I don't think they should be given thousands of dollars for discriminating against other people who are different from them.

I wrote a blog post about Karyn Bosnak, who asked for money on the Internet (before gofundme even existed) in order to pay her $20,000 credit card bill. Many people responded with money and gifts. At the time I thought it was cool. Countless gofundme campaigns later, I'm not so sure.

I like the idea of strangers helping each other. There are legitimate campaigns out there. For example, I donated a small sum to a campaign for a homeless man who did not want to be separated from his dog, because the dog was all he had left. Both the man and the dog no longer have to live on the streets, thanks to the kindness of strangers.

I've heard of other campaigns where people ask for money for lifesaving surgeries, or they ask for help when they are struggling to support their families. It's great when people show compassion for each other.

I hoped to travel this summer, either to make a second trip to New York or to travel someplace else I've never been, like Boston or Seattle. I need a new laptop, because my current one keeps breaking down. I'd like to move out of my 300-square foot apartment, with its cracked walls and constantly non-functioning shower and fridge. My neighbors leave beer cans in the elevator and steal my magazines, and one especially loud neighbor is either an amateur porn star who streams videos from her apartment or just really loves her boyfriend.

But this year, my health problems (which I'll write more about later) were very costly. Even though my insurance paid for most of my treatment, I was still on the hook for more than a thousand dollars. My student insurance will end once I complete my PhD (which will hopefully be this summer), but I still need health insurance for ongoing treatment. I also owe thousands of dollars in student loans. I have barely enough money to get me through this summer. After that, if I don't find a full-time job, I'll be screwed.

Will I start a gofundme campaign for myself? No. I hated that I even had to sign up for student loans. I worked full-time for as long as I could. I think that some people give gofundme campaigns a bad name, like the guy who started one in order to go to a comic book convention, students who want money to enroll in study abroad programs, and a couple who wanted a vow renewal ceremony.

I think that people should continue helping each other, but everyone has their limit. What about you? Have you ever donated to a gofundme campaign? What do you think of these campaigns?

8 comments:

  1. I've only donated to one gofundme campaign, and it was for people I actually knew. I've thought about doing one, but I think it would just feel kind of phony. I think I'd need a very good, specific reason, not just, I really want a better apartment or to move to a particular place to pursue my dreams.

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    1. Hi Sarah,
      I might have to move this year if I find a job outside of Chicago, but like you, I didn't consider starting a gofundme campaign for moving expenses either. There are good reasons to start some of these campaigns, but I think they've become too overused.

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  2. I am so utterly fed up with this whole concept I can't even tell you. It's gotten way out of hand.

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    1. Hi Karen,
      I know, right? I understand if people need money for surgery or something like that; I know very well how expensive medical expenses can be. But for something like a spring break trip?! I never even got to go anywhere fun for spring break when I was in college! If I had, I would have gotten an extra part-time job to pay for it.

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  3. The only ones I've heard about are the silly ones where people what to buy an air freshener and get £50,000 while the deserving ones - who are homeless, needing surgery - get £5.

    I can't believe that guy's girlfriend thought he was romantic! I'd have dumped him there and then!

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    1. Hi Annalisa,
      That girlfriend definitely should have dumped him; she actually made a public statement defending him after a lot of people criticized him. He didn't deserve a defense, in my opinion.
      I don't understand why people contribute to the silly campaigns; they don't always know for sure if the money will be used for what the recipient says it will be used for.

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  4. I don't know, they're starting to seem a little grabby to me. Though I agree that some are worthwhile. I haven't donated to one where I don't know the people/situation though...

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    1. Hi Gia,
      You're right. I think they should put restrictions on gofundme campaigns, so that they're only used for legitimate reasons; on the other hand, I'm sure a lot of people would disagree on what's "legitimate" and what's not.

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