Monday, December 1, 2014

I Wish I Was Samantha

Many female fans of the TV show Sex and the City often identify themselves with at least one of the four main characters: Carrie Bradshaw, Samantha Jones, Charlotte York, and Miranda Hobbes. If I had to pick one of the characters that I identify with the most, I'd say that it was Carrie Bradshaw, even though my legs don't look like hers (but God, I wish they did). I also hate shoe shopping, partly because I think that I am the female incarnation of Bigfoot and always fall down whenever I try to wear heels (and when I fall, I usually grab onto whoever's nearest me and drag them down with me). But Carrie was so neurotic and obsessive about everything, and I can definitely relate to that.

If there is one character I WISH I was like, though, it would definitely be Samantha Jones. I don't envy her one-night stands, partly because all those years of Catholic school made me feel like I should go to Confession or say the rosary after I watch an episode of the show. 

I also don't envy her wardrobe, although she always looked fantastic. But I would never have the nerve to wear such revealing clothing. As far as fashion goes, I am basically the female incarnation of Mr. Rogers (though I definitely don't want anyone to be MY neighbor, because my neighbors have always been magazine-stealing, throw-up-in-the-elevator-and-leave-it-there, hard-partying, loud jerks who apparently never work or sleep), partly because I wear a lot of sweaters. I'm always paranoid that I'm going to show too much skin, especially when I'm teaching, and that I'll end up being one low-cut blouse away from being a character in a bad Lifetime movie (to quote Joseph Conrad, "The horror! The horror!"). 

But I DO envy her confidence. One thing I noticed about Samantha was the way she walked into a room with her head held high, her shoulders back, and a confident smile on her face, as if she didn't care what other people thought of her. I remember one scene where she went to a bar by herself and walked in as if she owned the place. I would never have the nerve to go to a bar on my own. On the rare occasion I do go to a bar to meet a friend or a date, I walk in quietly, my head down, hoping that no one will stare at me because I'm convinced that my hair/outfit/makeup looks wrong.

Samantha was always able to strike up a conversation with any handsome guy in the room. I, on the other hand, am only able to talk comfortably to guys if I have no interest in them whatsoever or if they happen to be making my coffee at Starbucks (but that's only because I'm usually more interested in the coffee). 

She wasn't afraid to stand up for herself to people who judged her, excluded her, or mistreated her. I, on the other hand, write down witty comebacks that I wish I had the courage to say in person and create fictionalized versions of my real-life adversaries for my stories. 

I've always been an introvert, ever since I was a little girl. It's different when I'm teaching. That's the one place where I DO feel confident, because I actually know what I'm doing. But there's still an invisible line between the students and me; when I interact with them, it's obviously not the same as interacting with peers, friends, dates, or people who annoy me so much that I feel like karma is laughing at me every time they pop up. 

Samantha thrived as a publicist and at bars and parties. A life like that would be terrifying to me, because I've always felt uncomfortable at bars AND parties. (Incidentally, I thought I wanted to be a publicist when I was in college, but two internships in public relations made me think otherwise.)

But one good thing about being an introvert is that it made me more observant of other people and my surroundings. Since I'm often too shy to talk to people I don't know or am attracted to, it's made me less likely to get distracted and more likely to remember what I've seen and experienced, so that I can write about it later. I'm not saying that extroverts can't be observant too, because they can. And they can also be good writers, of course.

But for me, being an introvert inspired me to create and write about literary alter egos who were more brave and extroverted than I was. 

I must admit that sometimes, I still wish I could be like Samantha Jones, if only for a little while. (But I would never have broken up with Smith Jerrod, because have you SEEN what he looked like?) 

What about you? Do you identify with any fictional characters in particular? 

16 comments:

  1. I agree. Samantha's character was awesome. She always knew how to have a good time and she was a good friend. I'm an introvert and tend to use my writing as a way to experience new things and be a lot braver too.

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    1. Hi Murees,
      If I could be like Samantha, I would always have a good time at parties. Instead I usually stand near the food, talk to a few people, and make up an excuse to leave early.

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  2. I'm probably more like a miranda. How depressing is that!?

    Miranda had a cat, though. So that's cool.

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    1. Hi Gia,
      It's not bad to be like Miranda! I always liked her, because she seemed smarter and more level-headed than her other friends. She was also assertive; that's one thing that she and Samantha had in common. Both women were not afraid to stand up for themselves.

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  3. I think half the people who appear confident are just faking it. At least, that's what I tell myself to feel better ;)

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    1. Hi Lynda,
      I'm willing to bet that several people are faking confidence, especially certain actors; after all, actors make a living at "faking it." :)

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  4. Thanks for stopping by my blog and visiting! I appreciate the comment :)

    There are many, many fictional characters I identify with. If I had to name two, they would be Jo March from Little Women and Meg Murray from A Wrinkle in Time. Two awkward, unpopular girls with strange interests and hobbies who end up, finally, growing into themselves and leading very productive and happy lives. Ahhh, still waiting for that last part ;)

    Cheers!
    Jen

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    1. Hi Jen,
      Thanks for stopping by my blog! I like Jo March too, although I always thought she should have married Laurie; she seemed so much more compatible with him than Amy did. I still have my copy of A Wrinkle in Time; that's one of the books from childhood that I still love to reread.

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  5. Miranda certainly had a set of, umm, balls on her. Assertive women are my heroes too!

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    1. Hi Emily,
      I liked Miranda because she wasn't afraid to talk back to guys who were rude or disrespectful; maybe her outspoken attitude was why they made her character a lawyer.

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  6. I Loved that show! Not the movies as much. I also admired Samantha's confidence. I was definitely more like Charlotte.

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    1. Hi Julie,
      I always envied Charlotte's wardrobe; I never liked wearing dresses, but I'd wear them if I had her wardrobe. I love the show too; watching it makes me feel better about being single.

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  7. I never watched that show, but I know what you mean. One thing about confidence is you can fake it. Pretend to be that person until it becomes natural. You'd be surprised how well it works. :)

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    1. Hi Rachel,
      I actually used to fake confidence when I first started teaching, but that didn't stop my hands from shaking when I wrote on the chalkboard. Eventually, it became easier, and like you said, the confidence became more natural.

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  8. Samantha may have been a siren, but come on...she had issues :) more than playboy. you're way better then that. but sometimes confidence is a way to hide said issues. remember that as well. it's ok to be introverted, and it's also awesome if you can open up a little more everyday! (( hugs sweets ))

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    1. Hi Tammy,
      Samantha definitely had issues. She was a commitment-phobe who loved to play the field, but I still think she was wrong to end her relationship with Smith Jerrod, who was the only man who truly loved her (not to mention he was the only man she truly loved).
      I think I'll always be introverted; I may wish I was like Samantha, but I would never be truly comfortable being like her.

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