tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post7762132588946756878..comments2024-02-07T11:07:10.219-06:00Comments on Obsessions of a Workaholic: Old Friends, Googling, and Mug ShotsNeurotic Workaholichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-30673309424712317162017-04-20T22:39:05.385-05:002017-04-20T22:39:05.385-05:00Hi Deniz,
I know, right? That's exactly what...Hi Deniz,<br /> I know, right? That's exactly what I was thinking. I was afraid that it wouldn't just be one or two friendly e-mails from her; it would be many, many e-mails from her. It did seem like she was a little needy, particularly when she tried to make me feel sorry for her in the last e-mail but didn't mention any of the stuff that had been in the news about her. Maybe she would have tried to explain her actions later, but frankly, I'm still upset over what she did to those other people and don't think I can get past it.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-8828465826401908972017-04-20T03:38:13.892-05:002017-04-20T03:38:13.892-05:00I'd be inclined to do the same as you -- ignor...I'd be inclined to do the same as you -- ignore it and hope it goes away. I wouldn't want to reject her outright and hurt her feelings, but I'd be afraid that even one open line of communication might lead to neediness and overreaching... I hope she has at least one or two friends close by...Deniz Bevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17134553551048836979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-44128693264147180642017-04-19T22:56:54.825-05:002017-04-19T22:56:54.825-05:00Hi Crystal,
A part of me considered writing back...Hi Crystal,<br /> A part of me considered writing back, especially because there was a period of time where she really was my friend. But I don't know if I could influence her at this point; people's lives were seriously changed by what she did, and not for the better. You're right about doing what you're comfortable with, because that was the thing: a larger part of me just did not feel comfortable writing back. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-11394467687346188682017-04-19T11:02:24.160-05:002017-04-19T11:02:24.160-05:00That's tough. I personally would have written ...That's tough. I personally would have written back, but I wouldn't have given her any information beyond my email contact. That's just me though. A part of me would hope that I could influence her in a better direction, but that also take a certain amount of emotional energy. You have to do what you're comfortable with, and if you're having a hard time with her actions, it definitely wouldn't be a positive interaction. Not responding was probably the best way to go.Crystal Collierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03912469552483168148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-53710162721417401732017-04-17T19:04:47.215-05:002017-04-17T19:04:47.215-05:00Hi Misha,
I know what you mean. One major reason...Hi Misha,<br /> I know what you mean. One major reason I haven't returned to the town where I grew up in all these years (my parents no longer live there) is because I don't want to run into them, at least not unless I can arrive in a helicopter like the class nerd did in Romy and Michele's High School Reunion.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-45017245522828269322017-04-17T19:03:40.595-05:002017-04-17T19:03:40.595-05:00Hi Murees,
I especially like your sentence: &quo...Hi Murees,<br /> I especially like your sentence: "It's your life, and you get to choose who you let into it." I need to remember that, especially because I've let too many people into my life that never should have been part of it; I let them because I mistakenly thought I didn't really have a choice. I've resolved to stop doing that. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-2872465259486342142017-04-17T10:12:43.112-05:002017-04-17T10:12:43.112-05:00Same here. I one of the big reasons why I picked a...Same here. I one of the big reasons why I picked a university across the country from my high school was so I wouldn't bump into the people I went to school with. <br /><br />I've accepted some facebook requests, though, but I hardly ever see posts from them as I have a huge number of active writing friends. (Which I prefer.) <br /><br />I agree with what Murees says... do what's good for you. Misha Gerrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06364173848456424521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-26056593621132828132017-04-17T05:28:38.356-05:002017-04-17T05:28:38.356-05:00Honestly, I avoid the people I went to school with...Honestly, I avoid the people I went to school with. Those were not happy times for me, so I wouldn't respond either. You have no obligation to respond. It's your life, and you get to choose who you let into it. So, don't feel guilty. Murees Dupèhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11781339206465690961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-38380395214005388172017-04-14T21:21:11.553-05:002017-04-14T21:21:11.553-05:00Hi Theresa,
Yup, the crimes happened very recent...Hi Theresa,<br /> Yup, the crimes happened very recently. I don't really feel comfortable emailing her, mainly because her crimes are less likely to be the kind featured on "White Collar" and more likely to be the kind in every Lifetime movie. I'm also willing to bet that she would e-mail me a lot after that; I think that she lost a lot of friends after what happened. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-45461786103965463782017-04-14T20:49:40.719-05:002017-04-14T20:49:40.719-05:00Wow, that's a complicated situation. Were any ...Wow, that's a complicated situation. Were any of the crimes recent? Maybe she's learned from her mistakes. If you're comfortable, a pleasant vague email might be easier. She may not make much of an effort after that. What do I know? I've unfriended two relatives on Facebook for being angry 45 supporters. Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-44634891963203568622017-04-13T22:07:06.464-05:002017-04-13T22:07:06.464-05:00Hi Karen,
I think it might be a combination of b...Hi Karen,<br /> I think it might be a combination of both in her case. That is, I think that maybe she really did want to connect, but at the same time I do find it difficult to trust her now. I'm also willing to bet that if I confronted her with what I know, she'd get defensive and it probably wouldn't end well.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-62594378561479535282017-04-13T10:17:33.347-05:002017-04-13T10:17:33.347-05:00Wow, this is a tough one. On one hand, I'd pro...Wow, this is a tough one. On one hand, I'd probably think oh she's reaching out, trying to connect with a (potential) friend, and on the other hand I'd be suspicious, wondering what she's after. I think I'd do like you're doing and just follow your instincts. Karen Jones Gowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11378428503220197256noreply@blogger.com