tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post3326348547688490420..comments2024-02-07T11:07:10.219-06:00Comments on Obsessions of a Workaholic: The Polyamorous Guy, or Why I Got Dumped for Being Too NeuroticNeurotic Workaholichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-12047135927471634092018-04-18T23:40:20.915-05:002018-04-18T23:40:20.915-05:00Hi Deniz,
I know, right? I admit it is hard to r...Hi Deniz,<br /> I know, right? I admit it is hard to reject someone; I've had to do that in the past, and I admit I took the easy way out by claiming that I was "too busy" to date. However, some guys didn't take the hint, like Boring Bumble Guy, who continued to text me until I finally told him that I had feelings for someone else (the Model). And it is hard to get that balance right. I want to just casually date right now, but I don't want to just jump into the physical stuff right away. That's one thing I liked about the Model: he was willing to go at my pace and didn't make me feel bad about it.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-73128548833524337032018-04-13T07:35:25.003-05:002018-04-13T07:35:25.003-05:00It's so hard to get the balance right between ...It's so hard to get the balance right between wanting to date someone casually and yet wanting a bit of spark and tenderness before moving onto making out and more. That certainly shouldn't lead to anyone telling you you have to much anxiety for them! People are so annoying that way. All this rudeness and ghosting and what not. Is it really that difficult to say, I don't think this going to work out, good luck in the future? What happened to basic politeness?<br />Deniz Bevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17134553551048836979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-48419410051515833002018-01-18T19:15:46.244-06:002018-01-18T19:15:46.244-06:00Hi Sandra,
Thanks, and same to you! And it was a ...Hi Sandra,<br /> Thanks, and same to you! And it was a decent day, actually. I plan on doing some writing tonight, which is always a good thing. :)Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-13281164887360373312018-01-18T09:57:15.652-06:002018-01-18T09:57:15.652-06:00Just stopped by to say hey and hope you're hav...Just stopped by to say hey and hope you're having a pleasant, productive day.Sandra Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814573408898140885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-7162583549494852492018-01-18T09:56:33.357-06:002018-01-18T09:56:33.357-06:00I think everyone feels that way at one time or ano...I think everyone feels that way at one time or another.Sandra Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814573408898140885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-22031964461689379212018-01-17T21:44:06.960-06:002018-01-17T21:44:06.960-06:00Hi nomdeplume,
I think you're right about no...Hi nomdeplume, <br /> I think you're right about not revealing too much on the first date. I think that was my mistake: I gave him too much personal information about myself, and it overwhelmed him and he decided it would be easier not to handle any of it. I should have stuck to just talking about lighter stuff and relaxed more. Part of me wishes that I could go through the date with Bearded Hipster again and follow your advice; I think it would have gone better. But he's no longer interested, so oh well. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-27654039877932691642018-01-17T18:49:10.138-06:002018-01-17T18:49:10.138-06:00I used to be pretty neurotic. I’m nowhere near as ...I used to be pretty neurotic. I’m nowhere near as bad as I used to be all thanks to being married to someone who’s laid back. One thing I realized is we all have quirks. Some are neurotic, some are passive aggressive but those are things you typically find out about your partner - and learn to love the whole package - over time. I say be yourself but you don’t want to be yourself too much on a first date. The point is to score a second date. I love my husband despite his flaws. But if I was confronted with all of them on the first date, it would’ve been too overwhelming. And I’m pretty sure if I came across like the psycho that I am, there wouldn’t have been a second date. I was still myself - but the best version of myself. nomdeplumehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03232877918608356106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-48851093453106539152018-01-17T12:49:49.277-06:002018-01-17T12:49:49.277-06:00Hi Charly,
I'm not ready to be anyone's ...Hi Charly,<br /> I'm not ready to be anyone's girlfriend, let alone wife, right now, but I would like that eventually. But the problem is that some of the guys I dated or talked to online acted like we were already in a relationship (or were close to being in one) when we were still getting to know each other, which I didn't like. So for now, I'd just like to date.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-59625357729568608962018-01-17T11:45:51.298-06:002018-01-17T11:45:51.298-06:00I'm not sure what you want here - do you want ...I'm not sure what you want here - do you want to just date, or are you looking for a long-term commitment? You say you just want to date, but your behavior shows otherwise. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-8870255633640457452018-01-16T21:04:48.727-06:002018-01-16T21:04:48.727-06:00Hi Annalisa,
Thank you. I know you're right,...Hi Annalisa,<br /> Thank you. I know you're right, but I've been thinking about taking a break from dating, at least for a few weeks. I feel like this whole process has made me more and more cynical, and I want to feel hope again. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-1632376818251428942018-01-16T14:30:24.162-06:002018-01-16T14:30:24.162-06:00Keep getting out there and meeting people. The mor...Keep getting out there and meeting people. The more people you do, the more you'll know when you've met the right one.Annalisa Crawfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14943610814274794998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-69550358688778917462018-01-15T22:07:11.570-06:002018-01-15T22:07:11.570-06:00Hi Sandra,
Thank you! It would be wonderful if t...Hi Sandra,<br /> Thank you! It would be wonderful if that did happen, but unfortunately, I'm losing hope that it will.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-63029346537494455072018-01-15T21:19:56.005-06:002018-01-15T21:19:56.005-06:00Hopefully, the next guy you go out with will be ju...Hopefully, the next guy you go out with will be just who you're looking for.Sandra Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814573408898140885noreply@blogger.com