tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post332299047064923773..comments2024-02-07T11:07:10.219-06:00Comments on Obsessions of a Workaholic: If I Ever Have ChildrenNeurotic Workaholichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-82076933494237520492016-07-04T12:41:00.164-05:002016-07-04T12:41:00.164-05:00Hi Caitlin,
I'm sorry about my late reply; I...Hi Caitlin,<br /> I'm sorry about my late reply; I was coming back from my parents' house yesterday and spent more than half the day traveling. <br /> I'm also sorry about what your mother said; she should not have said that. My mother has criticized my clothes ever since I started buying my own clothes, back when I was a teenager. I think a lot of it has to do with her wanting to control me, even more so than how I look. I don't want it to be like that if and when I have kids. To this day my parents have never really apologized for how they treated (and continue to treat) me; they think that they are right. But I know they're wrong. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-13278709021249997342016-07-02T13:55:37.999-05:002016-07-02T13:55:37.999-05:00I think most of us have a distinct desire to paren...I think most of us have a distinct desire to parent differently than our own parents did. After picking me up from the movies with my friends, my mother once told me that I shouldn't wear that outfit again because it looked like there was a tire around my middle.<br /><br />While there are always things we do as parents that we thought we never would, or reactions we have that we used to think were impossible, I think it's totally legit to decide what kind of parent you want to be before ever having kids. Sounds like you understand how important empathy and support is, so right on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146136846875431598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-49521000355939849932016-06-30T21:05:11.168-05:002016-06-30T21:05:11.168-05:00Hi Emily,
Sorry about my late reply; I'm out...Hi Emily,<br /> Sorry about my late reply; I'm out of town right now, so I haven't been blogging. Anyway, I wish that more parents could be like you and understand that they should stay out of their children's love lives. It's one thing if the children's partners are abusive; it's another thing altogether if the parents think they should control their children's relationships. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-69116130266276705592016-06-29T12:16:35.876-05:002016-06-29T12:16:35.876-05:00This is awesome. Yeah, I don't want to traumat...This is awesome. Yeah, I don't want to traumatize my children by inserting myself in their love lives. Matters of the heart aren't easily manipulated by parents.Emily R. Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03892444969625637064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-74056687892425254242016-06-29T12:16:28.202-05:002016-06-29T12:16:28.202-05:00This is awesome. Yeah, I don't want to traumat...This is awesome. Yeah, I don't want to traumatize my children by inserting myself in their love lives. Matters of the heart aren't easily manipulated by parents.Emily R. Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03892444969625637064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-7391804559619311622016-06-23T00:28:06.227-05:002016-06-23T00:28:06.227-05:00Hi Annalisa,
My mother often insisted on meetin...Hi Annalisa, <br /> My mother often insisted on meeting with my high school teachers when she was upset over my grades. She even wanted to do that when I was in grad school and said she would meet with the chair of of the department. But I put my foot down on that one.<br /> I wish my parents were on my side like you are with your kids, but instead it's me vs. them. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-4163771038701881832016-06-23T00:25:12.117-05:002016-06-23T00:25:12.117-05:00Hi Chrys,
Thank you. I used to think that I woul...Hi Chrys,<br /> Thank you. I used to think that I would never have children, because I was afraid I wouldn't be a good mom. But now I know that I'll do everything I can to make sure that I treat my children with kindness and compassion.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-80369867733659725522016-06-23T00:23:30.248-05:002016-06-23T00:23:30.248-05:00Hi Libby,
Unfortunately, they're still like t...Hi Libby,<br /> Unfortunately, they're still like that. What's worse is that they don't see anything wrong with their behavior. To this day they keep insisting that I'm the one with the bad personality.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-18813039594734926392016-06-22T14:37:46.521-05:002016-06-22T14:37:46.521-05:00I've learned everything about being a mother f...I've learned everything about being a mother from watching the way other people (naming no names) parent, and then doing it differently.<br /><br />The world is a harsh place - I, and my husband, are the only ones who are always going to be on our kids' side. <br /><br />I'm so sorry you had this upbringing. But I did giggle at 'He said this soon after meeting my mother'. <br />Annalisa Crawfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14943610814274794998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-19698488169761043272016-06-22T12:14:58.959-05:002016-06-22T12:14:58.959-05:00You'd be a great mom. It's unfortunate tha...You'd be a great mom. It's unfortunate that some parents do or don't do these things. I'm sorry you experience(d) this.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-55719898043521019062016-06-22T06:13:23.917-05:002016-06-22T06:13:23.917-05:00Wow. If those things happened to you then I am so ...Wow. If those things happened to you then I am so sorry. Parents should love and encourage their children. Not make them feel terrible. Hopefully, you're not made to feel that way anymore.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13832020537665488659noreply@blogger.com