tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post2886806015450408735..comments2024-02-07T11:07:10.219-06:00Comments on Obsessions of a Workaholic: Disappearing Acts, Unmatching, and What I Really WantNeurotic Workaholichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-38833819619089410312018-04-13T07:17:22.754-05:002018-04-13T07:17:22.754-05:00That profile is so creepy! Ugh. No wonder it's...That profile is so creepy! Ugh. No wonder it's difficult to meet normal interesting fun people!Deniz Bevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17134553551048836979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-42694557915670301642018-01-05T19:50:42.561-06:002018-01-05T19:50:42.561-06:00Hi Nicki,
I'm sorry about my late response; ...Hi Nicki,<br /> I'm sorry about my late response; I've been blogging much more sporadically lately. Sorry about that! That's interesting about what happened to your mother; I admire her for standing up to all those guys. And I think you're right about women being independent; if and when I form a relationship with a man, I'd want him to be independent as well, rather than have him expect my life revolve around him (I would stay far away from a guy who has those kinds of expectations). I think that some guys think that because I'm 36 that means I want to get married and have children sooner rather than later, but I don't. I want to get to know the guy I'm dating first before we make any kind of commitment to each other.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-57394090405021812322017-12-31T10:56:00.978-06:002017-12-31T10:56:00.978-06:00If I ever found myself single, I'd want exactl...If I ever found myself single, I'd want exactly what you want - dating a lot of people and having fun and not putting pressure on anything to develop into a relationship. But I bet that's hard to communicate on the dating sites without it sounding like all you want is a series of random hookups. Good luck figuring it out so you can connect with the right kind of guys.<br /><br />A lot of men are needy and looking for a woman to take care of them. After my friend's dad died a few years ago, her 70-year-old mother immediately had widowed men in the neighborhood after her! She knew it was just because they wanted her to cook & clean for them, so she told them all to flake off. Women are so much better at being independent than men.Nicki Elsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11412032684225126973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-30604352637413911982017-12-31T08:57:48.517-06:002017-12-31T08:57:48.517-06:00Hi Caitlin,
I'm sorry for my late response; ...Hi Caitlin,<br /> I'm sorry for my late response; I was traveling all day on Friday and didn't have time to sit down to blog until today. <br /> Loverboy was definitely weird; I mean, it's one thing to want to fall in love, but it's something to automatically reject someone who doesn't want to rush into a relationship with him before meeting in person. Major red flags there.<br /> All of these online dating experiences have definitely helped me develop a better understanding of what I want and don't want. I know one thing for sure: I don't want to date anyone who tries to make me commit to a relationship before I'm ready, because I think that's a sign of controlling behavior. That's one of the things that turned me off about the Artist. Most of the guys I met before him were fine with just exchanging a few e-mails and then setting up a date, but he wanted to talk every night before we even met. It was too much too soon, and it (and he) was annoying.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-39630363424357781292017-12-29T16:33:58.448-06:002017-12-29T16:33:58.448-06:00Loverboy sounds straight up loco in the coco. Deci...Loverboy sounds straight up loco in the coco. Deciding you absolutely must fall in love before you can even go on a date? That's a lot of expectations you're gonna have let down, dude.<br /><br />But I think there's a lot of advantages to finding fulfillment in just yourself. Looking for fulfillment only from a relationship will definitely let you down really quickly for sure. It honestly sounds like you understand what you want from yourself and any potential boyfriends/relationships, which I think is awesome.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146136846875431598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-88063265849857595762017-12-28T20:18:31.792-06:002017-12-28T20:18:31.792-06:00Oops, I just reread my comment and realized I wrot...Oops, I just reread my comment and realized I wrote your mother when I meant my mother. Sorry about that!Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-23172887241300280402017-12-22T09:55:55.761-06:002017-12-22T09:55:55.761-06:00Lol, I thought you were on nickname terms already ...Lol, I thought you were on nickname terms already ;-)Annalisa Crawfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14943610814274794998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-28360511612355372802017-12-22T09:00:03.980-06:002017-12-22T09:00:03.980-06:00Oops, I meant Loverboy, not Lovely. Darn autocorre...Oops, I meant Loverboy, not Lovely. Darn autocorrect.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-82889348957786216782017-12-22T08:59:11.030-06:002017-12-22T08:59:11.030-06:00Hi Annalisa,
I know, right? People like Loverboy...Hi Annalisa,<br /> I know, right? People like Loverboy put too much pressure on not only themselves but everyone they're interested in dating. I think it's partly a cultural thing; around here most people marry young, so the people who don't feel self-conscious about it. That makes some of them, like Lovely, even more anxious to get married. <br /> If and when I do fall in love, I want it to be with someone who doesn't expect me to spend hours talking to him every night and who has his own life, but also makes me an important part of it. And of course, I would do the same for him.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-21574668771086565432017-12-21T13:31:11.577-06:002017-12-21T13:31:11.577-06:00I think the problem with conversations like the on...I think the problem with conversations like the one with Loverboy is deciding you will fall in love rather than let it develop naturally - it leads you down the wrong path, in my opinion. Going out, having lots of fun, will eventually throw you into the path of someone you like enough to fall in love with. I think you're on the right path :-)<br /><br />Merry Christmas, NW, and a fantastic New Year!Annalisa Crawfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14943610814274794998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-26614667415507863312017-12-20T09:52:47.025-06:002017-12-20T09:52:47.025-06:00Hi Sandra,
I wish my parents, particularly your ...Hi Sandra,<br /> I wish my parents, particularly your mother, shared your perspective. She's convinced that I'll never be happy unless I'm in a relationship. But I do agree with you. Even though it would be nice to have someone special in my life, at the same time there are several other things that make me happy. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2445163857888749606.post-35052951566417196792017-12-20T09:29:24.524-06:002017-12-20T09:29:24.524-06:00My thoughts: A person can be happy and fulfilled w...My thoughts: A person can be happy and fulfilled without being in a relationship. And if a relationship does develop hopefully it will only magnify that happiness.<br />Have a jolly day.Sandra Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814573408898140885noreply@blogger.com